Thanks for reading and responding, Ella. I appreciate you sharing your own story and the resonances and divergences it shares with mine. No, we are not nearly alone, though our individualistic system would have us believe we are.
I understand that the repeated reminders about my Whiteness might be annoying. I hope you can also see that for me, Whiteness is very much at the center of my whole saga. Without Whiteness, none of this whole thing would have come to pass. So at the risk of being repetitive, I do deliberately choose to always come back to that.